There is a misunderstanding that many of us were taught, that there are some positive and some negative emotions, and since we believe that there are bad emotions, we do our best to try not to get into these but as you may have realized throughout your life, this is completely impossible. We cannot avoid or stop feeling those emotions that we dislike or those emotions that we call instead of calling positive emotions and negative emotions, I suggest that with your children the most important thing is that you transmit to your children that as human beings we came to feel all those but most importantly, take responsibility for your actions while you are feeling those that we call uncomfortable, not like fear, sadness, frustration or anger.
When a person has the belief that there are some good and some bad feelings, then it is logical that he does not want to be inside the bad ones and that he does everything possible to get out of them and to forceThey are people who do not allow themselves to feel, who judge themselves too harshly when they are sad, when are angry, when they are frustrated and also not empathetic to other people when they are living and also judge them very harshly for remaining in those negative feelings. So my advice to you is that whenever your child is going through an uncomfortable emotion, don’t make you feel that it is wrong to be there and that you must get out of that emotion quickly. Rather, accompany him and slowly Velho training so that he is able to take responsibility for hisWhenever it is governed by sadness, anger, or frustration
Disciplining is not punishing, yelling, or even disrespecting. There are many children who believe that when they behave well their parents love them, but when they commit mistakes is as if the level of love of their parents was reduced. This is because when they behave well, their parents are loving and caring, but when they misbehave their parents have attitudes like stopping them from talking, being hostile, being rude to them.
Then the children end up believing that the parents have a level of love, that when they are good and when they behave well, that level goes up, but when they make mistakes that level goes down. So when your child is well-behaved, you are loving, respectful, and kind. And when they misbehave, you are hostile and disrespectful. You are teaching your child that the love of people and above all that your love is conditional or conditioned, begin to relate your love or lack of love to their behavior. What is dangerous about this is that your child does not learn what unconditional love is. He will learn that the level of love is based on the other person’s behavior. Keep in mind also that what a child wants most is to be loved by his or her parents. So your child will behave well, not because it is what he is born with, not because it is what he considers
Sometimes we see our children’s situations as easy or superficial. This is because our adult brain is already fully developed and because throughout our life we have lived many experiences that have given us the ability to solve what but we forget that our children’s brains are not fully developed and that neither has lived many experiences that we have lived, so for them, a situation very small could seem like the end of the world.
However, it is not positive to go out and solve any situation or to solve any conflict and to avoid the frustrations, because there I would not be giving him the training that he needs throughout life and throughout the experiences, he needs to develop solution skills advice is to always be empathetic to the situations your child is going through so that for you this whether it is a minor situation or a situation that is neither so serious nor so important. After that, ask yourself how capable is he to solve it? Allow him to solve everything he can on his own and then help him in all those situations as well or circumstances that you consider not capable of resolving alone.7 Do not minimize their situations because they are childish, nor abandon them at the moments when they are more than you so much for being part of my parent scout community.
do to your child what you would not do to an adult. There is one question that I always ask the parents that I counsel and today I am going to ask it to you as well. This behavior, attitude, or action you have with your child, would you have it with an adult? Sometimes we think that because we are the adults, that because we are parents or because we are the authority, we have additional rights over the children. Another big mistake being the mom or dad doesn’t give you additional rights that you don’t have to do with respect, love, education, understanding, or communication.
If other adults are your bosses, your co-workers, your friends, your partner, don’t yell at them, you don’t belittle them, you don’t embarrass them in public because you would do this with your children. I’m sure another adult wouldn’t be forced to eat something he hates, to comb his hair in a certain way today I invite you to ask yourself if what you are doing to your child you would do to another adult.