Remember that you are your child’s coach and your child is your ward. So you will need to be correcting different negative behaviors or different bad behaviors. The mistake here is to focus only on the behavior, but not to find out what caused it that is, the so that behavior, for example, a child can be disordered to get attention from his parents, he may hit another child because he needed to defend himself or he may be undisciplined because I wanted to be the coolest guy in the group.
So in order to correct it correctly, it is very important that you find out what it was forced to that negative behavior, to give you an idea of what is behind or underneath let’s start with why it’s rare for a child to misbehave, because if they wanted to achieve something but didn’t know or didn’t know a positive way to do it, so he did it through bad behavior. For example, as I was saying before, he wanted to get your attention and didn’t know how to get your attention fromSo he did it by making a mess, for example, or behaving badly.
Your job here is to teach your child that there are positive and respectful ways that is, what it is valid for, but what is not valid is having achieved it in a disrespectful way. The second is a limiting or wrong belief your child may be having about the situation. The typical example of this is the child who thinks he is the bad guy or who plays the bad guy and is undisciplined because he believes that this way he will gain the respect of his peers or make your job, in this case, is to detect that limiting belief and teach him that he is already valuable, that he does not have you have to be bad or undisciplined to receive the respect and courage of your peers. And the latter is a necessity to learn.
Your child may be misbehaving because there’s something he hasn’t learned yet. For example, he hasn’t learned the value of respect, communication, forgiveness, or asking for forgiveness. He doesn’t know how to get frustrated yet, he doesn’t know how to negotiate. In this case, your job is to find out what your child hasn’t learned yet and to find ways toOn my YouTube channel I have lots of videos where I give you tools and resources to teach your child and to train him in that which he does not yet know. If you only focus on interrupting bad behavior, but in the end, you don’t find out why. What’s underneath or behind that behavior, what’s going to happen to you is that you’re going to spend your life correcting bad behaviors and your child will repeat them over and over again. If you take it upon yourself to find out what led to the behavior
I realize that some parents impose some rules or some standards, not because it is consistent, but because they think they are the authority because they do not want to give their arm to twist or that they want to show it is very important that you are firm in setting rules and consequences and that these are really but sometimes we realize that we were too hard, that it is too strict or that it is a rule which may no longer make sense or apply to your family.
In these cases, you can talk or you can think and rethink these rules and regulations, and you don’t keep them just for the sake of not giving your arm to twist, just for the sake of not changing opinion oden or feel that you are kind of letting go of your authority. You may also have certain exceptions to the rule, such as when your child is prohibited from eating candy before dinner, but they are at a birthday party and all the kids are eating a Colombina. You should explain to them that this is a disappointment not to do as long as they fly home and it will become I believe that flexibility is a skill that is very difficult for us adults, but it is a fundamental part.